You know your autistic grandchild has difficulties with social interactions at home. Now, triple that at school. How can you help?
When my autistic grandson was in fourth grade, he attended the school at the end of my block. I was one of the responsible parties listed on his records and that meant I got a few calls to his classroom.
On one occasion, he was having a cry-down. His head was on his desk and he sobbed pitifully.
He would not be comforted.
The problem was simple. He thought the spelling list was too long. The instructions to write a sentence for each word was overwhelming. So, we played a game and within a few minutes, he was on task and enjoying lots of hugs and reassurances from grandma.
However, on other days, I took him home with me.
We completed his work at my dining table. On those days, the classroom was just too loud and active. My grandson was unable to concentrate so he added to the din by humming.
Once he was out of the classroom he could focus.
The friendship of a grandparent goes a long way with our autistic grandkids
As grandparents, we want all our grandchildren to succeed with their education. This includes our autistic grands. We can’t always be on call but there are other ways to show support.
Have you ever attended one of the grandkid’s classroom parties?
Sometimes a well-loved face can change the course of a child’s day. And many schools welcome the presence of grandparents to help run errands, change bulletin boards and aid at recess or lunch.
Does your grandchild have choir or band concerts? Do they display their work in science or art fairs?
When grandma or grandpa come out to share these special events, this sends a message to our grandchildren. You are loved.
Think of times you can join your grands at school. What could be more special than a grandparent to take the scary out of school or to add in the extra-special to an ordinary day?
Our autistic grandkids may not openly respond like the others but believe me–they are in their hearts.