They were a scandal that became a fairy tale. But like most tales, the story of Vince Gill and Amy Grant is some fact mixed with fiction. Almost two decades later, their story is one of a successful marriage.
Vince and Amy aren’t just the beginning of one marriage. They are also the ending of two.
When they met, both were married to other musicians. Gill to Janis Oliver, whose band is Sweethearts of the Rodeo. Grant to Christian singer Gary Chapman. He had a teenage daughter; she had three children, ages 7, 10, and 12.
Gill and his wife divorced in 1997. Two years later, Grant and Chapman divorced. Vince and Amy immediately began dating.
In spring of 2000, they wed in an outdoor ceremony.
In an interview with AARP, they set the record straight that they were never unfaithful to their respective spouses from the time they met in 1993 until they divorced.
But it isn’t surprising that rumors spread rapidly about the two. Grant admits there was an instant attraction. She remarked that she was overwhelmed by him (in a good way).
Nonetheless, chemistry and attraction only take a relationship so far. The couple immediately faced challenges.
For one, the press played up the quickness of their courtship, insinuating more about their relationship. Two, their children were pretty grim about the arrangement.
Finding Their Way
In an interview with Good Housekeeping, the couple shared their secrets to success.
Step-parenting was a big challenge. But Grant said that Gill was patient. She said he slowly introduced himself to the routine of family life.
They have an ease to the relationship, which is mostly due to what they learned from their respective past marriages. “You just learn so many good lessons when you go through a failed marriage,” Amy said.
This includes how to handle each other. She admitted he has a bad temper, and she is “stubborn as the day is long.”
The couple also have a genuine respect and care for each other. Vince admits that he still misses her when he’s on the road. Amy remarked on his romanticism and sensuality. (They both admitted their sex life is great!)
Perhaps their success is not in spite of their past, but because of what they learned from it.