Let’s face it, with all the gender confusion going on in our society our grandsons can get lost in the muck. Who do we want them to become and can they do that without a mentor?
There’s a shameful crisis among our current generation of males. Absentee fathers are on the rise and I don’t mean deadbeat dads that impregnate, then hit the road. We’ve always had those and always will. I’m speaking of dads we see with our eyes, yet teach their sons nothing of lasting value.
They’re absent because they’re too busy at the gym, too busy video gaming, too busy with their sports, and too busy with pornography. In essence, they’re too busy entertaining themselves.
What are their sons doing? Wondering why dad’s not home, wondering why dad’s always with his buddies, wondering why dad’s buying more sports equipment and looking over dad’s shoulder at naked people.
Now, what can grandpa do for his young, confused and left-to-figure-it-out, grandsons? Plenty if motivated and given the chance.
A young boy can learn to:
- Love God and his creation
- Read worthwhile books including the Bible
- Study character-building topics
- Treat women with respect–even women who’d rather not be
- Be kind to animals
- Work hard
- Successfully complete his education
- Use tools and do at least minor auto and household repairs
- Rake leaves and mow the lawn
- Guard his language and keep his word
Sounds like a lot, right? It is. But men of former generations progressively gained mastery in these areas. We might ask, “How can a little boy mow a lawn or fix a car?” By watching grandpa. First, he sees that it’s necessary and important, later he can help, later still he can take over.
How can a young boy learn to treat women with respect? By watching grandpa with grandma, then applying the same thoughtfulness and courtesies to his mother and sisters.
Strong in character, mind, body, and deed
Don’t you love it when your grandsons start to strut their stuff? They want to show how they can help. They think they’re taller, stronger and more capable than their years and in most cases, we’d do good to let them think that.
If your son or son-in-law is doing a great job as a hands-on, involved father, let him know how proud you are of him. In that case, grandpa is an addition to a good thing.
But what can you do if your son or son-in-law is into themselves or genuinely incapable of bringing up junior? Ask permission to step in and mentor. Then remain consistent.
Finally, “boys will be boys” is just what this country needs. Who will make that happen?