Many of us were raised to attend church. We prayed before meals, learned our memory verses, and attended all the congregational picnics. Then we raised our own families. Then they raised theirs. Will they be spiritual or secular?
I had my fill of church by the time I was twelve but at my parent’s house, we were obligated until age eighteen. At that time I changed churches and scaled back to twice weekly attendance. However, I was still very active and started my family there.
As the years went by, we moved a lot and experienced many of life’s woes. I divorced and remarried and began to rethink matters of denominations. Yet, I did not walk away from faith. I raised many children and watched them connect and disconnect with God. Still, most do not live a faith-based life. My grandkids are split.
Think about these telltale signs. How often did you attend faith-based events while young? How often did your kids? And now your grandkids?
Was your family spiritual? Did they pray together? Did you pray with your children? Do your grandchildren pray?
Consider these same things with Bible study, amount of entertainment, time spent with peers, and subjects taught at school. Are trends climbing in some areas and declining in others? And is there a connection? Would your grandkids rather play sports, see a movie, or play video games– from a very early age– than engage in spiritual activities?
When Your Faith Collides With That of Your Children
I’m very aware that discussions concerning God, the Bible, fellowship, and serving together with other Christians are taboo with most of my children. Therefore, my influence upon my grandkids is small in that respect.
When the faith of generations slips away, it can be taken as a personal rejection, yet truly it’s a disconnect with God. The best thing we can do is keep channels of communication open for possible inlets in the future. When my grands are over, we still pray at the table and I still refer to scripture as it comes naturally– but not overbearing.
Do you invite your grandkids to church? I think it’s easy to give up. Perhaps it’s best to invite to a church party or holiday gathering.
Are they aware of the ministries you’re connected with? These days, some of our grands will show very little interest in our daily lives, so we may need to give them information they didn’t ask for.
Have you tried buying them Christian novels, a new Bible or scripturally-based movie? It may seem like a waste of money but perhaps they’ll pick it up someday. Some say, “When all else fails– pray.” I’d say pray, wait, and love. And keep it up.
If today looks bleak, keep the confrontation down between you and your kids and your prays up for everyone.