Don’t you hate it when your grandbabies cry? And if it’s because you’re heading out the door, it’s even worse. If you’re like me, you’ll do anything to keep from breaking their little hearts. Give some of these tips a try.
The first thing to remember is to let your son or daughter or their spouses know what you’re up to. When you’re all in on the “slip away” it works better. However, don’t talk about it in front of your grandbabies. And don’t wait to enact it after they’re crying.
Thus, make a plan ahead of time and if it stops working, kids are smarter than we think sometimes, switch to another method.
- Wait until your grandchild is happily playing in another room. If you need to say goodbye, for your sake, give them lots of hugs and kisses before they toddle off to their toy boxes. But no parting words.
- Leave while your grandchild is sitting at the table enjoying a favorite treat. Same as above, say “goodbye” without letting them catch on.
- Bring a special toy, that’s new and exciting, and give it to your grandchild right before you intend to leave. While they’re hooked on the flashing lights or tactile sensations, make a run for it. Do this only on occasion so you don’t break the bank and when it’s close to a gift-giving season.
- Wait until naptime. Help tuck him or her in and leave the room the same time as mommy or daddy. Or stay out in the living room while they’re snuggling down to sleep. “Have a good nap!”, can mean, “bye-bye.”
- Sneak out the back door when a favorite TV program is running. Most of our grands are drawn into the TV screen when bright, colorful, and engaging characters are talking directly to them or singing.
When Your Grandchild Has You All Figured Out
There will come a time when our grandbabies know all our tricks and can sense we’re about to leave. This is when we say our goodbyes and walk away while they throw a tantrum or have a cry down.
We can try to give a hug and kiss but verbal assurance is most needed. Although young children don’t have an understanding of date, time, and occasion, we must help them learn these concepts.
We can say, “Grandma will see you next week” or another day, then we need to make sure we keep our word. Or confirm that grandpa will call tomorrow and follow through.
When our grandkids see that we come back or hear our voices on the phone, they learn to be secure about our departures and return visits.
Do you have any tricks to silently slip away?