The Big Bang Theory alum, Mayim Balik, recently opened up about a troubling mother’s group experience. Basically, she had her first child and wanted to meet other like-minded moms. But she left the first meeting in tears.
Now, Mayim Bialik has a son named Miles, who is twelve-years-old. But back then, when she took her newborn to a “mom’s group,” she quickly found herself upset, out of place, and chastised for her naturalistic beliefs.
On the surface, the other moms were manicured. But Bialik felt too busy to even make time for herself to get a shower.
Mayim Bialik Discusses Motherhood Roadblocks
“I used cloth diapers and I didn’t use pacifiers or bottles,” said the actress. She didn’t have the name-brand items or fancy clothes. “I didn’t have a manicure. I mean, I barely had time to shower. How was I gonna have time to get a manicure?”
Rather than being helpful, she found the group competitive and selfish. And when she asked the moderator for help, she was ridiculed. All she wanted to know was how to help her baby sleep through the night.
The other mothers bragged about their babies’ accomplishments, rather than offering how-to advice. “Everything was so competitive,” she said. “These were not my people.”
Moving In The Right Direction, Mom By Mom
The actress described the situation as “bored” moms that were “catty and combative by nature.” On a more diagnostic level, the Ph.D. believes her generation of moms were coming off the revolutionary turmoil of the women’s movement.
Essentially, she’s in the first generation that was constitutionally raised to believe they can do it all. Theoretically, this type of encouragement could spark a more competitive and “caddy” nature.
“Let’s get back to a model of camaraderie that reduces competition,” she said. And, this method would help “foster friendship and empathy and increases the success of a society that is built on the foundation principles of woman-to-woman support,” Bialik added.
“We can only do this together,” added the actress.
So, what do you think of the actress’ views on raising children? Like the actress, have you faced similar competitive situations with your child?